The short version: 想 xiǎng + verb is a wish: 我想喝咖啡, I'd like a coffee. 要 yào + verb is firmer and can mean want, going to or need to. With a person, 想 means miss: 我想你. The negatives do not mirror the positives: don't want to is 不想, 不要 means don't!, and don't need to is 不用.
Both 想 and 要 can be translated as “want”, so beginners often treat them as the same word. They are not. They differ in strength, they each carry meanings the other does not have, and their negatives split in three different directions. The last point causes the most trouble, because a learner who says 不要 to mean “I'd rather not” often sounds much blunter than intended.
From a wish to a decision
The three jobs of 要
Besides a firm “want”, 要 has two other everyday meanings that 想 never has.
A plan that is already fixed, or something about to happen. With 了 at the end, it means any moment now.
Something you should or must do. Doctors, parents and teachers use it all the time.
With a noun: 要 for ordering, 想 for missing
Before a noun, 要 means want to have. It is the ordinary word for ordering and buying, and it is not rude in a shop or café.
想 before a noun usually does something else entirely. With a person or a place, it means to miss.
The negatives: three different words
This is where 想 and 要 cause real misunderstandings. Each meaning of “want” has its own negative, and only one of them is 不要.
| 我想去 I'd like to go | →我不想去 wǒ bù xiǎng qù I don't want to go. The normal, polite way to say you'd rather not. |
| 要 = need to 你要来 (you need to come) | →你不用来 nǐ búyòng lái You don't need to come. Never 不要来 for this meaning. |
| 要 = will 要下雨了 (it's going to rain) | →不会下雨 bú huì xià yǔ It won't rain. Predictions are negated with 不会. |
| 不要 + verb | →Don't! An instruction, the same as 别 bié: 不要哭 búyào kū, don't cry; 不要在这里抽烟, no smoking here. |
Check yourself
Wish, decision, need, or prohibition?
Don't want to = 不想. 不要 sounds like a flat refusal or an instruction.
Don't need to = 不用.
想 + place = miss.
About to happen: 要…了.
不用了，谢谢 is the polite way to decline.
An instruction, don't!: 不要 (or 别).
Say what you want, and how strongly
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- 想 + verb
- Would like to, feel like: 我想喝咖啡.
- 要 + verb
- Want to (firm), going to (我明天要去北京, 要下雨了), need to (你要多喝水).
- 要 + noun
- Want to have; normal for ordering: 我要这个. Softer: 想要 + noun.
- 想 + person
- Miss: 我想你, 想家. 想 can also mean think: 我想他不会来.
- Don't want to
- 不想: 我不想去.
- Don't! / refusing
- 不要 + verb = don't (= 别): 不要哭. 我不要 alone = a blunt no.
- Don't need to
- 不用: 你不用来; 不用了，谢谢.
- Won't (prediction)
- 不会: 明天不会下雨.
Frequently asked questions
What is the difference between 要 and 想?
想 + verb is a wish, softer and less certain: 我想去中国, I'd like to go to China. 要 + verb is firmer and can mean want, will or need: 我要去中国, I'm going to China.
Does 我想你 mean I want you?
No. 想 + a person means to miss someone: 我想你 means I miss you, and 想家 means to be homesick.
How do you say I don't want to in Chinese?
Use 不想: 我不想去, I don't want to go. 不要 + verb is normally an instruction, don't!, as in 不要哭.
How do you say you don't need to in Chinese?
Use 不用 (búyòng): 你不用来, you don't need to come. To turn down help politely, say 不用了，谢谢.
Is it rude to say 我要 when ordering?
No. 我要一杯咖啡 is a normal way to order in a café or shop. 我想要 is a little softer, and 来一杯咖啡 is common in restaurants.
- 吕叔湘 (Lü Shuxiang), 《现代汉语八百词》: the entries for 要, 想 and 不用.
- 国际中文教育中文水平等级标准 (GF 0025-2021): the official standard behind the new HSK levels.
- Center for Language Education and Cooperation (CLEC), official HSK site (chinesetest.cn).